Here are a few tips for enjoying better sex after age 50:
- Moisturize and lubricate: After menopause, it’s not uncommon to experience discomfort during sex due to vaginal dryness. Lubricants can help moisten the vagina during sex. If that doesn’t work a vaginal moisturizer may be in order. It’s important to use fragrance-free and water-based moisturizers and lubricants to prevent an adverse reaction. Avoid douching, as it can also cause vaginal dryness. Your doctor may also recommend medication such as low-dose vaginal estrogen if moisturizers and lubricants are ineffective.
- Take time to relax: To enjoy better sex after 50, it’s important to make time for foreplay. Foreplay can help reduce pain during sex that’s caused by vaginal dryness. Different sex positions may be helpful too. Taking a bath or shower in warm water may also help you relax.
- Consider your general health and medicines: Very often, a low sex drive is caused by a pre-existing health condition. Reviewing medications and making adjustments can be helpful for some people. Make sure to manage any health conditions, get an adequate amount of sleep, and consume alcohol in moderation, if at all. Regular physical activity may be helpful for people who are overweight.
- Communicate regularly with your partner: The principles that hold true for effective communication in a partnership, also hold true for talking about sex. Describing how you feel is much more helpful than arguments or accusations.
- Get creative: After age 50, certain medical issues may limit your sexual activity. A little creativity may be necessary for better sex after 50. Different sex positions to make vaginal intercourse more comfortable or alternatives to sexual intercourse like massage and sex toys are definitely options to consider.
- Talk to the doctor: Bring up any issues related to your sex life so your doctor can understand what’s going on and provide a solution.
In general, sexual desire declines gradually with age in both males and females, but the chance of this happening is higher in women. You may lose interest in sex due to reduced levels of estrogen along with an age-related decline in testosterone. If you are no longer interested in sex, talk to your physician about the situation. They may refer you to a health care specialist who deals with sexual dysfunction. A reduced sex drive is very often temporary, and may improve in response to improved communication with your partner.
Age can also affect the sexual desire and arousal of your partner. It isn’t necessary to have intercourse with your partner to be intimate with them. You may express affection and love in many different ways, including massage, handholding, and laying in bed together.